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Colleen's Story
My name is Colleen and I am 22 years old. I was reading the story about
the girl who lost her mother and I thought maybe it would help me grieve
a little more if I told mine.
My mom and I never got along and it started at about the age of eight.
My mom's alcohol and cigarettes were more important to her. I remember
having to go up to my mother to ask for a hug or a kiss just to be
turned away from her because she didn't want to be bothered. I remember
nothing but the bad times because that's all that there was for me very
seldom were there good times between us. I remember all the mental and
physical abuse that my mother gave me. All the tears that I've tasted
because she would be screaming that she hates me or I wasn't her
daughter.
The last time I saw my mom was February of this year she was in a
hospital because she tried to kill herself. Oh but this was like the
fifth time she tried and once again was unsuccessful. Once again someone
was there to save her before her body actually shut down. See my mother
did what she did for attention my mom was an actress so says my Nannie
but I believe it because my mom would call me from work to put the blame
on me. The last thing I said to my mom was if your going to kill
yourself make sure you succeed next time.
Two months ago I received a phone call from work from my Poppa
(grandfather) I knew that something was wrong just from the tone of his
voice. He said Colleen I'm sorry to have to tell you this but your mom
has passed away. From that moment my heart broke in two I was very
frantic and I told him that I would have to call him back. I ran to my
supervisor's office the tears were just running down my face. He asked
me what was wrong and all I could say was that my mother has passed away
and then I fell to the floor and just said someone please help me. My
sister was a work also her name is Stacey and she is 18 years old. My
boss was able to get me up into a chair and calm me down a little. I
knew that I had to though because I was the one that had to tell my
sister. It just seemed so not real like a bad dream. My boss didn't want
me driving anywhere so a friend at work drove me to my best friends
house so that I could wake her up because I couldn't do it alone. All I
could do was cry my friend got up while my friend that drove me there
waited in the car. I went to where my sister was but what was told to
her was there was a family emergency. So when I got out of the car and
she ran over to be tears already in her eyes because she knew it was
something bad. At that moment my sister and I became so close. It was
the most hurtful thing that I would ever have to tell her that our
mother passed away all I could do was hold her and cry with her I was
relieved that we were there for each other. From there we left to go
back to my sister's house and then we just stayed there till her father
came home which he left early. We called our Nannie & Poppa on the phone
and they asked if we were ok I think everyone was really shocked they
didn't know what to think. After we got off the phone with them I told
my sister that last night for some reason I felt really sick like I was
going to throw up around 9:30 - 10pm I thought it was just something
that I ate so I went and laid on the bathroom floor. It usually just
makes me feel better but this time the feeling was just not going away.
I remember saying out loud that I want my mom you know when your sick
and you just want your mom. Shortly after I was done fighting throwing
up the feeling went away but I still felt weird something was wrong and
I didn't know what it was. I went to the kitchen to get a drink and then
I just went back to bed to wake up go to work and find out that my mom
was gone. My sister just looked at me cried even harder and threw the
paper towel holder across the room at around the same time the night
before my sister had the same feelings as I did. I believe till this day
that my sister and I were feeling what our mother was feeling as she was
slipping away. When our mom finally passed on we became fine like
nothing ever happened. Stacey and I had so much that we had to do to
going to my mom's apartment, to picking out a funeral Home, to what she
was going to wear, To what we wanted her to be cremated in we picked a
blue cremation box. My mom didn't want to be on display but because my
mom alienated herself from the family and us we thought it would be good
for everyone to see her one last time.
After all was said and done and the autopsy report came back it said
that my mom died from Multiple Drug Toxity which means that my mom
committed suicide. Know I have to live for the rest of my life knowing
that I said to her if you are going to kill yourself make sure you
succeed next time. My mom left me before we could work things out and
maybe even have an relationship. Her dying has taught me that life is
very short and you shouldn't take anything for granted because you have
no idea when it's going to be your time to go. I love my mom very much
and there isn't a second, minute ,or hour that doesn't go by that I
don't think to myself what could I of done differently. I have grown up
so much and when it's time for me to be a mother I'm going to be the
best mother there is and pray that my mom is looking down at me and
smiling because I've become what she couldn't. I know that I will make
her proud because even though we had are tough times my mom loves me
very much and I want her to know that I love her too she will always be
a part of my heart and soul and I will take her with me where ever I go.
© Colleen
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